How much of your time with your children is spent worrying about other obligations? When we are getting our children ready for school in the morning, but also fretting about work, or imagining how a meeting will proceed, or planning the next event, we are not being present with our children. The same is true [...]
We often hold onto a lot of assumptions about our children, based on old stories of how they once were. As parents we must understand and accept that our kids are growing and changing every day and that they will continue to do so into adulthood. Therefore, if we choose to hold our children in [...]
After writing last week’s post on Limiting Beliefs, a few people asked me to further clarify the definition of and role that limiting beliefs play in our lives. Limiting beliefs are beliefs that prevent us from living fulfilled, happy and satisfied lives. These are the stories we tell ourselves and end up living them. They [...]
“We need to pay attention to our child’s mind, not only their behavior. Behavior is just the end result of what’s in their mind”. –Gonan Premfors (December 2010) Last month I posted the above two sentences on Facebook. I was amazed at the responses I got both on and offline, so I thought I would [...]
As parents, we want to develop a relationship of trust and mutual respect with our children—a relationship in which we are confident that our children are not lying to us. As we work to create this sort of trusting relationship, it is important to understand and recognize some of the reasons why our children may [...]
We all have a handful of embarrassing childhood memories that will stick with us for life – the day we fell in a fountain at the mall, the time we said something that made our faces turn red on a date, the evening we called someone by the wrong name… Learning to recognize and manage embarrassment is [...]